Notoriety of any sort often brings privilege and scrutiny in equal measure.
For some reason, the most salacious thing anyone every really wants to know about what I do is which “celebrities” or “famous people” I’ve met. It’s right up there with “what do you do when somebody is ugly?” and “how can someone sell their body?” in the unwinnable game of *questions I can’t or won’t answer.*
Most often these questions arise from deep misunderstandings of the work itself, and from terrible high-profile examples set by unscrupulous individuals or Hollywood.
My favorite retort to the “sell your body/sell yourself” idea has long been a tweet which summarized the idea thusly:
I don’t sell myself. At no point does my self leave me or become anyone else’s posession. What I sell is an idea of yourself. A self you can’t be without me.–Know the source? I’d Love to credit this!
I’m quoting it from memory, but I think pieces of that speak to many situations and individuals. Particularly those who might find themselves in circumstances which are—shall we say—confining. Perhaps you already understand what a “self you can’t be without me” means, on a number of levels and that is why you are here.
Notoriety, whether it comes from Instagram fame or public office, brings with it eyes and judgement. With judgement comes a fear of stepping out of line or being caught in an unacceptable situation. Tabloids still make millions tearing down the tailored images of public figures. And the churning, unrestrained schadenfreude of social media leaves those who might be next paralyzed and distrustful.
What do you think you need?
If you see yourself in any of that, then it is you to whom I am speaking. I believe that humans are not meant for the rigidity of the boxes we create for ourselves. And I believe that need – the need to be witnessed, heard, touched – doesn’t simply resolve itself with more money, or more public attention. Need is funny that way.
Special care is to be taken with those who have more at stake. Not at the cost of my own safety and privacy, you see. But in tandem with it. We can protect each other.
If you’ve found your way to this page, I have no doubt you’ve read over my security measures, and perhaps even already implemented some of my suggestions. I work very hard to make sure my secrets stay secret.
But more than that, I want those who find their needs unmet by socially or situationally “acceptable” means to find what they are looking for.
And what do you think it would take to meet that need?
Fly me to you rates include my travel costs to you and back home again. I’m glad to add the cost of accommodations to my rate, in order to keep everything in my name. Assistants, agents, or trusted friends are welcome to contact on another’s behalf, though I will like to at least briefly communicate directly. Records, phone numbers, and messages exchanged are never logged and are later permanently deleted.
I so hope that you will reach out if you think we might have something to offer one another. Reasonable questions are answered with the same discretion, whether we end up meeting or not.
Let me see your self.