Personal Statement on Ethical Practice
As an individual
My duty, first and foremost is to myself: to keep myself safe, healthy, and free from harm. This encompasses everything from eating well, to getting enough sleep, and behaving responsibly in sexual situations (PrEP, condoms, safer sex practices, and regular medical testing, education, and self care).
It is also my duty to keep myself safe from legally dubious situations and illegal activity. I am not in the practice of engaging in illegal activity, and do not wish to be. Invitations toward actions or situations known to be unlawful will be politely and firmly declined.
As a companion
My duty as a companion is one of care and one that I do not take lightly. This care can take many forms and extends to many facets of my interaction with others in a professional capacity. Firstly, my duty is to protect those who have entrusted me, in every way that I am reasonably able. This protection is facilitated by the technology and security requirements laid out elsewhere on this site, and is not a negotiable element of my interactions with others.
Whether others determine their lives to be public domain, free from secrets, or other notions along the path of being an “open book,” is not relevant to my interactions with them. My duty is to strive to keep private any and all disclosure of names, dates, associations, and any personally identifying information that may be shared with me. That begins with this website and the information handling practices laid out here and in the stated Privacy Policy. It extends to my real life refusal to discuss or allude to any of the aforementioned identifying details in any personal or professional capacities (I will not speak about private or identifying details to my friends, to my colleagues, or to journalists or law enforcement).
As a consent-focused care provider
In any situation, consent is a nonnegotiable element. I will always make every reasonable effort to ensure verbal and nonverbal consent and verbal and nonverbal reconfirmation at reasonable intervals. I anticipate the same in return, and will strive always to be available for frank and forthright conversation about what this means and how it is best accomplished. Everyone is different and requires different attention and care to feel their safest and most secure. But everyone is deserving of safety and security, regardless of the circumstance.
As a member of the broader community of sex workers
I believe sex work is real work and that the only path to safe practices, institutional safeguards, protection from carceral enforcement, and destigmatization of workers is full and unequivocal decriminalization. Study after study empirically demonstrates that a full decrim model is the most certain path to safety and a more firmly accepted legitimacy for erotic laborers. It is also demonstrably the surest and most effective way to combat non-consensual sex work and trafficking.
As a member of the sex worker community, I make efforts wherever financially possible, to invest in individual relief or mutual aid funds, and in organizations that are doing direct work with sex workers. I will also always offer personal advice or guidance to those wishing to contribute money to these funds or groups. Local SWOPs need your money. Harmful global scams like the P•laris Pr•ject do not.
Also, as a member of the sex worker community, I will extend the same efforts of protection I make in my professional life to my peers and colleagues. I will not discuss or divulge personally identifying information of any kind in any context without the express consent of the person being identified.
Exceptions for harm
In situations where someone may reasonably be considered a danger to themselves or others, or is knowingly causing active harm, the duties toward individual privacy and protection may be overridden. This means, if I am assaulted, or am made aware of dangerous or threatening activity, I will use my best judgment and may need to seek law enforcement or other intervention to maintain my safety and/or the safety of others.
It does not mean that I will disclose personal information simply because I disagree with the actions or behaviors of others.
Exceptions for humanness
As seriously as I take my work and the gravity of the trust placed in me, I am still only human. I will likely make mistakes and will do whatever I can to set things right if and when I do. I will also strive to allow others their own fallible humanness and trust that they will also make things right in their own ways.
